Friends organized a dinner with ex-colleagues last night. There were about 50+ attending.
As an introvert, I naturally abhor GOING to big gatherings. The key word is “GOING”. Because once I am actually IN the gathering, my extroverted genes naturally take over and there’s nothing more I want to do but to go around and make small talk with everyone. I shudder as I write this – thinking of the need for small talk. But I enjoyed it while I was there. We all have our quirks. This is one of mine.
I went because this was a dinner with people that I really respected and admired. People who are so successful (and mostly) still down-to-earth. And I went home realizing how lucky I am not just to know these people – but more importantly to know them BEFORE they became who they are now.
The thing is, I saw a lot of these people cry in the past. I saw a lot of these people feel disappointed. I saw a lot of these people put in the hard work. I saw them push thru the right actions no matter how mundane or difficult. They went through a lot of failures. And if I were to guess, I am sure they still go through a lot of failures now.
What separates the good from the great is the ability to go thru failure, disappointment, hopelessness – and wake up the next day willing to go at it again.
Michael Jordan had a 50.5% shooting average during his peak years with the Chicago Bulls. This is already the greatest basketball player of all time and he still missed half the time.
So why worry about failure? It’s true that failure will probably happen when we try something new. But it’s also true that failure is just a phase and just a part of the process. It’s just part of the cycle of life. So get out of your mind, get out of yourself, and start shooting. We’re rooting for you.