This is a canopy in front of the beach. Many couples have gotten married here and have gotten connected to one another. It’s a canopy that exists in Gubat, Sorsogon – a place of retreat at the very edge of Philippine’s biggest island. This is a canopy that connects, but is built on a place of retreat.
Last night, on an e-numan with friends, we asked each one to give to give 5 updates each. And after I shared, it sunk-in how crappy the last few months have been for me – deaths of loved ones, needing to retrench people I care about, and a never ending fear of health of loved ones.
Life is full of peaks and valleys. And this was a clear valley. And while it’s easy to say ‘This too shall pass’, it’s hard to accept when you are the one in the valley. But I realized what helps though, when you are in the valley is having friends and loved ones who you can open up to. Talking about painful things help. We are not meant to be alone. We are meant to connect. And even moreso, we should connect when we are in difficult moments.
Our natural tendency when we get hurt is to retreat. To wall off ourselves from the world because at least we know we can count on ourselves. But this is the exact opposite of what we should be doing when going through valleys. Yes, we should take time for ourselves, but we should also put the effort to connect to those we love and those we care for.
It’s amazing that while I am literally retreating in the edge of the island, I see this canopy and I am reminded that I should be connecting, just as much as I was retreating. I am thankful for family and I am thankful for friends I can connect with. If you are also in a valley right now, remember to connect. Your family and friends are there, excited to be with you.